Personal choice. The tungsten to me looks like it would pick up lint and cleaning patches etc. Doesn't flutter my dress much.
As for the darker is better, I figure the muzzle flash always gives you away anyhow, so I dig stainless pretty much.
In Memory of Paul "Dietrich" Stines.
Dad: Say something nice to your cousin Shirley
Dietrich: For a fat girl you sure don't sweat much.
Cue sound of Head slap.
RIP Muggsy & TMan
"If you are a warrior legally authorized to carry a weapon and you step outside without that weapon, then you become a sheep, pretending that JOCKO will not come today."